This coming weekend marks the official kick off to the 2010 Wedding Season. 'Tis indeed the year of weddings for me--not only does it include our own in April, Chris and I have weddings to attend in March, May, July, and August. This weekend is Mae and Jim's wedding celebration, and they have given Chris and me the honor of serving as "junior sponsors" which is a traditional Filipino role of witnessing the marriage and pledging to stay with them throughout their journey. It's so special to be able to participate in a wedding of someone I care about (Mae is one of my bridesmaids) as a couple, and as I prepare I am also full of appreciation for those who have been and will be instrumental in getting us ready to marry as well--our bridal party.
But before I launch into it, I wanted to check in and see how we are trekking along these 100 days. We have very little more than a month left of our 100 days which is frightening and exciting at once, though mostly exciting.
Starting from the fundamentals of self-care, I think we have been doing very well except for in one area. Chris is a very good influence in getting me to sleep at a reasonable time, whereas left to my own devices, I convince myself that sleeping is very boring and would rather watch 10 hours of youtube clips, but with Chris sleeping soundly next to me and looking so satisfied, it's easy for me to invite sleep into my evening at a reasonable time. And let me tell you, there's nothing like getting a good night's sleep to prevent Bridezilla-esque moments of anxiety, panic, and cold sweat. We've been eating well by cooking more at home and eating regularly. We've been keeping active, thanks to my love of exercise DVDs (P90X is not just for boys who want to get ripped...it's a really really great workout for everyone when you're trapped under two feet of snow in the middle of a winter!) and Chris' love of shoveling and walking.
One aspect I've neglected shamefully is meditation. It's really the lack of an appropriate physical space for meditation that's the culprit, but there are workarounds and I have not taken action to provide myself with a better environment for it. If anyone has a good idea of preparing a space for meditation in one's home with limited space, please, please let me know.
On serving others and keeping an eye towards the outside world when weddings are such a self-absorbed exercise, I think we've done okay but could do better. We decided to give charitably together as a couple and chose an organization last year, and we have volunteered together at a couple of events, but we can do far more with it. I'll dedicate another entry or two to this in the near future because I think it's critical.
On preparing for parenthood, my offer for babysitting has not been taken up, which is ominous...but I promise we will be very good...and FREE!
On exploring our identities, I've begun in the right direction in exploring various aspects of what our union means to my identity, but have not begun an active dialogue with Chris. I'll explore this in another entry about putting together a video of our family histories.
Last but not least, I also wanted to write every day, and this I have been 90% faithful to. On publishing these writings on this blog every day, however, I have not been so good. Because I am never happy about the quality and content of the writing (because I write these so quickly and off handedly), they often sit in my draft folder waiting to be polished, but of course I do not have time to polish them. I have to really go against my instinct to publish them and that is why you have seen these long periods of absences. I'm sorry about that because although I'm the only one who really has any stake in this promise.
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